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Simple and Meaningful Holiday Celebrations

I’ve never been a person to have wild, noisy holidays.

When the new year begins, I usually am spending that day with family, or at least part of the day. I generally cook the traditional pork and sauerkraut with mashed potatoes for lunch. Pork and sauerkraut is supposed to bring you good luck and good fortune in the new year. Well this year, it certainly has brought me very little good fortune. Hopefully, next year will be better.

Then comes Valentines Day in February. This holiday is usually ignored. Sometimes, I may get together with other seniors at the senior center and have a good meal.

Saint Patrick’s Day comes in March. I get out the crock pot and cook a corned beef brisket. I add chopped potatoes and cabbage to the crock pot. Two of my children show up for that holiday. They like corned beef and cabbage.

Easter can come in either March or April. Then I cook turkey or ham with everything included. The whole works. The aromas of turkey or ham, mashed potatoes, gravy, vegetables, side dishes fill the house. One of my favorite dishes to go with ham is baked pineapple. Depending on their spouses most of the children come for Easter. In the future I plan on going to church for Easter services.

Wood engraving Crucifixion of Jesus 1866 by Gustave Doré.

Memorial Day weekend is at the end of May. We used to always have a big family gathering with everyone bringing food. Always a lot of great food and family. Games are played for the young and the adults. Sometimes it’s volleyball or croquet. Other times it’s corn hole, or wiffle ball. One thing the young ones love to do is play in the creek nearby. And you will hear their parents remembering their younger days when they played in the creek.

July 4th as its name says comes in July. This holiday is spent celebrating in different ways. As a child were always excited for the July 4th parade. Sometimes, we participated in the parade in one way or another. One time my son and his cousin dressed up as Betsy Ross and Uncle Sam. Another time he marched with his cub scout group. Times have changed over the years. The parade is still held on the 4th of July but I rarely get there. Now the small town where I live has yard sales that weekend all over town. So I either have a yard sale or I go browsing other yard sales. Then in the evening there are fire works held at the dirt racing track.

The next few months are quiet summer months with no holidays. Just hot summer months for beach vacations, swimming and trying to stay cool.

Halloween is the end of October when the weather has cooled down. I do almost nothing to celebrate Halloween. I am usually staying with an elderly lady who was a former teacher. She wants to see the dressed up kids. So I am the one who answers the door for her. I bring them inside to visit with her while handing out candy.

Thanksgiving comes in November. This is the day like Easter that I cook the big meal with everything and the kids come home. But it’s usually a nice quiet day.

Christmas as everyone knows comes in December. I used to try to do the whole bit: decorating, making cookies, presents. Now I celebrate in a much quieter manner. I have never been a big decorator. You have to drag everything out and a few weeks later put everything away. I will put up a small tree and that about does it. I came to the conclusion a few years back that Christmas is not about decorating cookies, shopping or even gifts. It’s about celebrating the birth of Jesus.

New Years Eve is also in December. It ends the old year and begins the new year. We always hope that the new year will be a good year. To celebrate, I go to a gathering of friends, old and new friends. We have a good supper with everyone contributing food. Then we play card games or other favorite games.

So, how do I celebrate holidays?? Each holiday is different so they are celebrated differently. But the major way that I celebrate most holidays, is with family, friends, and always, lots of good food and fun.

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How do you celebrate holidays?

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Valuable Life Lessons from a Poor Upbringing

I wish I had learned that all people have value. Even those like me who think they don’t have value.

I was raised in a large but poor family. One very important lesson that I have learned in life is that I might have come from a poor family. However, I had a much better life than younger generations who are given everything they want. We had a stay at home mother and a hard working father. They both loved us very much. Today, I still have five living and loving siblings. I have often said that our family very closely resembled the Television show (The Waltons). I loved that show.

There is another story I would like to share. Dolly Parton had a big hit song with her song (Coat Of Many Colors) that her mother made for her. I can also relate to that. My mother was a good seamstress and she made me a coat. Now my coat was nice. My mother got a lot of compliments on that coat. It was all blue denim but she made it with love for me.

Being poor did have bad influences on me. I didn’t even know I was poor until another girl in third grade brought me an Easter egg. She said that my family was poor and I probably didn’t get anything for Easter. She was right. It was then that I started to notice that my clothes weren’t as nice as the other girls. My hair was cut by my mother and wasn’t stylish. I came to think I wasn’t as good as other children.

My self esteem suffered. I started to stay in the background trying not to be noticed. This pattern of behavior followed me throughout my school years. I decided against college because I felt we couldn’t afford the cost. I had started working in my junior year and I enjoyed having money of my own. I enjoyed being capable of affording some new store bought clothing. Years later, I did return to college. I wish I had done that when I was young enough to have enjoyed the experience.

But I didn’t always appreciate my large family. I hated that we were poor. But we survived and made better lives for ourselves and our children. But looking back, the one lesson I wish I had know was how terribly valuable everyone, including myself, is. The second lesson I wish I had know, was how valuable family is.

Daily writing prompt
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

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The Sweet Benefits of Chocolate

Daily writing prompt
What are your favorite types of foods?

Chocolate and sweets is my favorite types of food. I know. They are all bad for you but they taste much better than broccoli. I overheard a doctor telling people in a restaurant “that if it tastes good, spit it out”. Of course he was joking. He had a good sense of humor. When promise margarine was popular, I heard him also telling people to “eat that promise.” He would joke that they could enjoy a few extra years in a nursing home.

I love chocolate. Chocolate for breakfast, lunch and dinner. No, I don’t eat chocolate for meals. I do try to follow a more healthy diet and lifestyle. I feel better when I eat better and exercise regularly. But I do still treat myself to chocolate candy. After all, life is short and we should enjoy the things we like to eat.

Lucious chocolate candies https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/User:Tupungato

But is chocolate good or bad for you? According to Harvard Medical School chocolate has some good benefits. Their report listed the following possible good health benefits:

  • better brain functions
  • lower blood pressure
  • increase the flow of blood throughout the body
  • lower bad cholesterol
  • Increase good cholesterol

The report does add that milk and sugar used to make chocolate increase the calorie content. These ingredients do not provide a good benefit to cocoa.

So after reading that report, I love chocolate even more. Who else loves chocolate?

https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/chocolate-pros-and-cons-of-this-sweet-treat

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Finding Motivation to Walk Again

I don’t run, ever. I really never did but now I am physically incapable of running, at least very fast. I might manage a fast walk if I need to be somewhere in a hurry. Running is no longer an alternative for me.

I do get to the gym a few times a week. Lately, even that has been pushed to the side. I must get motivated again. When I do get to the gym I try to walk almost a mile on the walking track. Walking outside isn’t really for me anymore. I love walking outside but my hips don’t like climbing steep hills.

Going to the gym on a regular basis really helps physically all over the body. Certain machines help strengthen leg muscles and help to keep my knees strong and pain free. Painful knees is a powerful motivation for working out at the gym. Regular exercise helps fight arthritis pain.

So I hope to make it to the gym at least three times this coming week. I really do need to walk more. Hopefully, nothing comes up that I need to do instead.

Daily writing prompt
How often do you walk or run?

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The Quiet Perspective: Leadership Is Not for Everyone

Are you a leader?

I can answer that with a firm NO. I am not a leader and I don’t wish to be a leader.

My personality doesn’t fit the mold for being a leader. I am quiet and I don’t really like to socialize a lot. I am uncomfortable in a lot of social situations.

I often have many good ideas about how to solve problems and sometimes I even offer the solution. But someone else can take charge and implement the solution. I prefer to fade into the background and I am not a person who seeks attention. I would not be good at public speaking or addressing a group either. This is probably why I enjoy sitting behind a computer typing words onto a screen.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/28027835@N04/54698331459/

But I do admire those with the qualities that I lack. I think a real leader can stand up and take criticism. A real leader is someone who stands up for what they believe is right. They act for the good of all concerned. They aren’t afraid of other’s opinions. They lead by setting good examples and working alongside of their followers. They have the ability to listen to good advice and enjoy social activities. Good leaders have all the qualities I lack.

So I will continue being a follower instead of a leader. Not everyone is cut out for leadership positions. There’s an old saying: too many chiefs and not enough Indians. It might also be said: Too many leaders and not enough workers. In conclusion, we can’t all be leaders.

I truly wish I had the ability to be a leader. I certainly admire most people who have the personality to lead.

Daily writing prompt
Do you see yourself as a leader?

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Red Flags: Recognizing Rude Behavior

I find it hard to like people with aggressive personalities or rude personalities. I have often worked with people like that. I tried to steer clear of them. Some of them would do just about anything for money and position. Some of them intimidate me. The smallest thing can set them off and the next thing they are screaming and attacking you. Then there’s the rude people. They can be really nasty people. Recently, I went on a short trip with a friend who brought another friend. Her name was Karen, if you get my drift. Nothing pleased her about anything. The room wasn’t good enough. She demanded to see the manager. The food didn’t please her. She made the whole trip a bad experience for the other three of us. Everyone was on edge any time she was near. She won’t be going on any more trips with us.

I saw many rude and aggressive people in the years I worked in restaurants. They made the job hard. One instance, was when a woman almost came across the counter at me. Later, I did find out she had a mental condition and was off her medications.

Most people with aggressive personalities are harmless but there are those who have a streak of violence. I view aggressiveness with caution.

Aggressive and rude people raise a big red flag with me.

Daily writing prompt
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

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Exploring Scotland: An Ideal Week of Castle Tours

I love English, Ireland and Scottish history. There’s so many great stories in that history. History of battles and countries at war. There’s stories of kings, queens and princesses. Some of those stories are sad and heartbreaking, others are inspiring. I particularly liked the stories of Margaret, and her granddaughter Mary Queen of Scots. Both of them had tragic endings. But one thing the royalty of those countries all had was beautiful castles.

I would love to spend a week traveling through any of them. But, I think Scotland would be my first choice to visit. Perhaps, because I know someone who did visit Scotland and I was impressed with their photos they shared.

My ideal week would be spent in Scotland at a luxury hotel. I would choose The Balmoral Hotel in Edinburgh, the capital of Scotland. I would then plan to visit the Royal Residence of Balmoral which the British Royals own. The Balmoral royal estate was bought by Queen Victoria and Prince Albert in 1852. The public can now tour the royal castle.

The rest of my week I would spend touring other old castles with rich histories. I would enjoy spending some time outdoors at a seashore in Scotland. There are marvelous castles and museums to visit in Scotland.

Some of the museums I would enjoy visiting during my week in Scotland include the following.

  • National Museum of Scotland in Edinburgh
  • Edinburgh Castle
  • National War Museum of Scotland
  • Glenfinna Monument in the Scottish Highlands
  • Stirling Castle where the Stuarts lived at times

Stirling Castle
Scotland https://flickr.com/photos

So this is my idea of an ideal week spent soaking up Scottish history in Edinburgh, Scotland. Visiting old castles and enjoying good Scottish food and beautiful green hills and gardens. Too bad it can only be for one week.

Daily writing prompt
Describe your ideal week.

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Riley Gaines

I know very little about professional athletes. I am not into football, golf, basketball or any other sports. If I had to choose a sport to follow it would be baseball. I also don’t watch much of the Olympics although I can enjoy figure skating and gymnastics. Actually, I would rather read a good book, have some chocolate chip cookies and chips. Television and sports for many of us have ended with some of the athletes kneeling and disrespecting our country.

But if I had to choose a professional athlete that I respect it would be Riley Gaines, the swimmer. And it’s not her swimming ability that I respect and admire. I admire her for her courage. She raises awareness about the unfairness faced by women in sports. These are women who have spent their lives training in their sport. Now, they have to compete with men who aren’t capable of competing against other men. During the last Olympics I watched a man punch a woman in the face and take the gold medal. I stand with Riley Gaines against men competing in women’s sports.

Riley Gaines has spent the last several years advocating for women’s sports to be for women only. I respect her because this hasn’t been an easy position for her to take in a WOKE society.

Daily writing prompt
Name the professional athletes you respect the most and why.

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Why I Chose Florida: A Personal Travel Story

In 2004 I had the opportunity to move to Florida. Friends invited me to come stay with them and stay as long as I wanted to. At that time I was in a relationship I no longer wanted to be in. I had a job that I was not happy with. I was working as a waitress in a local restaurant. I realized that working in the public gave the other person many opportunities. He could and did harass and embarrass me every day at my place of employment. I chose not to face that humiliation. I packed a few of my belongings and moved about twelve hundred miles away to Florida. A friend from Florida flew up to meet me and together we drove to Florida.

I loved Florida. I have heard people complain about the humidity in Florida but that was no problem for me. I enjoyed the smell of the Gulf of Mexico, the beautiful white sand and the sea breeze every morning. I was near a beach, so we usually had a, nice breeze in the mornings and evenings. There were a lot of new southern foods to sample and I learned to make Jambalaya. I loved that I was able to go the beach when I wanted to. We also traveled to neighboring states Mississippi and Alabama. It was all new and exciting for me.

Nevertheless, I had trouble finding a job in Florida. I didn’t know very many people so I didn’t have connections. I couldn’t even find work at a Wal-Mart store and there were several in the immediate area. I finally ended up working as a waitress again. Then eventually I found an office type job. But I wasn’t making enough money to support myself. So I lived with a roommate. I just happened to get into a relationship with him.

My family was twelve hundred miles away so after six years I returned home to be with them. The person I was living with had a very dysfunctional family. I decided I didn’t want to be part of the craziness I was witnessing. That family would make a good book which I may write someday. I do stay friends with all of them but at a distance for my own sanity.

So Florida is as far as I have traveled from my home state of Pennsylvania. I loved Florida and I did go back to visit a few years ago. But I plan on staying near my family in the future other than short trips.

Daily writing prompt
Share a story about the furthest you’ve ever traveled from home.

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The Heart of the Home: Designing a Dream Kitchen

My ideal home would be very much like my home that I presently own. I love my home. It’s a large four bedroom home with a wrap around porch. And I really enjoy that porch. In the mornings, I can spend time reading on the shaded side. In the evenings, I can move to the other side to enjoy the shade. It’s old, over one hundred years old now. I love older homes. They have character that new homes lack. They bring back memories of growing up in a home akin to the one I now live in.

Of course, my home isn’t perfect and being an older home needs some repairs. But it is large and spacious and has everything I need. Still, I would make some changes to make it ideal.

Changes I would make

I would like to have a bathroom downstairs and move my laundry upstairs from the basement. I know there will come a time when stairs become a problem. My upstairs needs painting and some updating, ceiling fans would be nice. I would also add bigger mini splits for air conditioning upstairs. I would like to update the bathroom upstairs. But too many modern changes would lose the old house charm.

The Kitchen

They say the kitchen is the heart of the home and I believe that to be true. The kitchen is large but can use some modifications. A large modern kitchen mixed with an open design into the dining area would be nice. Opening the wall into the dining room, a counter looking into the dining area would work. When I first moved into this home, the kitchen was nothing but a huge room with a single sink. Thanks to my sons, we have modernized the kitchen. I now have two sinks, counter space, and a dishwasher. Opening up that wall into the dining area would be nice addition.

Family in the kitchen praying before eating

Family

An ideal home would include family gatherings like the gatherings which I grew up with. The family would get together regularly to enjoy meals, cookouts and family fun. The children would be out in the evening catching fireflies. The adults would enjoy sitting on the porch with some wine or coffee sharing news and stories of the past. This is what my parents did when I was a child. Someday, hopefully my home will truly be idealistic.

Daily writing prompt
What does your ideal home look like?